How to Deal with Vaginal Tearing While Having Sex

Vaginal tearing is common and is usually indicated by bleeding after intercourse or moderate pain. 

This tearing tends to happen when there isn't enough lubrication during intercourse or the pelvic muscles are weak. So there are a few ways you can do to avoid vaginal tearing from occurring.

• Use a water based lubrication to keep the vaginal area moist. If you have sensitive skin, you want to avoid oil based lubricants as these can cause irritation and even allergic reactions. Oil based lubrication can also increase your chances of becoming pregnant or contracting a sexual infection because they can cause damage to condoms.

• Partake in plenty of foreplay before you have sex. Foreplay is a great way to help produce natural vaginal lubrication.

• Avoid certain position where you have experienced pain or bleeding after intercourse. Typically, the woman on top position results in an increase chance of vaginal tearing.

• Eat more fibrous fruits, vegetables, and drink plenty of water. All these will improve the skin's elasticity which will make the area more resistance to tearing.

• Strengthen the pelvic muscles by contracting the pelvic muscles and holding than for a few seconds, then releasing them. This type of Kegel exercise will strengthen the muscles to reduce the risk of tearing during intercourse.

Take a break from sex

You want to give the area time to heal from the tearing, so you should avoid sex and douching for a few weeks.

Allow yourself to rest

The blood you lose from vaginal tearing may cause you to feel weak or dizzy. You want to get plenty of rest to help recover from the lacerations.

Let it alone

Most vaginal tearing will cause minor bleeding that tends to stop after a few minutes or within a day. Unless vaginal tearing during sex results in bleeding that last longer than a day or is heavy, there is no need to seek medical attention.

Medicines

Over the counter pain relievers like Acetaminophen and Ibuprofen can help ease the pain associated with vaginal tearing.

Baths

Sit in a bath of warm water for 15 minutes to help reduce the pain from vaginal tearing.

Ice

Ice can also help relieve some of the pain from vaginal tearing. Use a clean cloth, towel or witch hazel pads to wrap the ice in and apply it to the area for a few minutes.

Call your doctor

You want to ask your doctor how long you should avoid sex to ensure that the vaginal tearing has healed. For severe tearing, you should consult a doctor immediately if you are feeling faint, abdominal pain, dizzy, have a fever or there is heavy bleeding. If you experience vaginal discharge with an odor, this can be an indication of an infection in the area which will need antibiotics to treat.

Lose condom in vagina

While vaginal tearing during intercourse is common, so is losing a condom or tampon in the vagina. Sometimes tampons are forgotten about and condoms slip off due to being the wrong size and friction. When this occurs, the first thing to do is to stay calm. Wait about fifteen minutes after you've done having sex to allow the vagina to return to its normal size. Then insert two fingers to retrieve the item out. If you are unable to get it out, call a doctor immediately.

Feel burning

Carpet burn is another common discomfort felt after having sex. Having sex on the floor can result in the friction, causing painful burns on the skin. When you experience this, you'll want to wash the area using cool water and antibacterial soap. If the skin is actually broken and not just red, you want to apply an antibacterial cream on it and cover it with a bandage. To avoid future carpet burns, remember to lay a soft blanket down on any rough surfaces before having sex.

​Back pain

This can also be caused from having sex when you experiment with different positions. If you find yourself suffering from back pain or injury after having sex, you'll want to apply a cold compress to help reduce the inflammation. After the cold compression, use a hot compress like a heating pad to soothe and relax the muscles. Rest for a few hours and if needed, take an ibuprofen to reduce the pain.

Yeast infections

Yeast infections are also just as common as vaginal tearing during intercourse. Yeast infection are typically more common when there is oral sex involved either from receiving it or from their saliva on his penis. To avoid yeast infections, it is best to make sure his penis has been properly cleaned. If yeast infection is common for you, you might want to talk to your doctor for a better way to avoid them.

Urinary tract infections

This kind of infections can also be a painful outcome from having sex. To avoid these, you want to make sure you are properly lubricated while having sex. Also, try to use the restroom before and after sex to flush out any bacteria that can cause UTIs. Cranberry extract is something you might want to consider taking if you tend to regularly experience UTIs.