It happens with every couple - sometimes you just get in a sexual rut. You use to have mind-blowing sex on the regular, but now things have become too routine and you are looking for a way to maybe spice things up a bit? Don't fret, whether you've had to set a day dedicated to sex or you just have gotten so used to the boring motions, there are a number of ways you can bring back the excitement in the bedroom. If you are looking to make things a little more interesting, you'll want to learn about these new things to try in the bedroom that can pull you out of your sexual rut.

Try These New Things in the Bedroom to Get Rid of Sex Rut


Get out of the bedroom

One of the best ways you can easily revamp your sex life is to take things outside the bedroom. You probably have an entire house at your disposal, so utilize it. In the kitchen, on the couch, or while in the middle of doing laundry! Don't shy away from being more spontaneous wherever you may be in the house to get it on.


Cancel out one of the senses

Whether it's a blindfold or headphones, limiting the ability of one of the senses allows the others to become more heightened. When the other senses become more aware, this can lead to an incredible sexual experience for both parties.


Don't have sex

It may sound counter-intuitive, but resisting the urge to have full on sex can be a game changer in the bedroom. Get back to how you two were at the beginning of the relationship where teasing was done best with passionate kisses and gentle touches.


Include some sex toys

There is a wide range of toys you can bring into the bedroom to spice things up. From vibrators to beads, there is something for any sexual style that can make the whole experience more enjoyable for you and your partner.



When you're in a long-term relationship, there's a good chance you have a number of steamy sex stories to recall upon. Instead of just forgetting about those, put them to good use. Find ways to top the sexiest night you two shared together.


Read to each other

There are a lot of ways you can benefit from reading a steamy bedtime story to get you in the mood. Trying to read a little erotica as one of new things to try in the bedroom can help set the mood and even start some conversation about some other things you'd be willing to give a try.


Add in some sweets

A little drizzle of honey or syrup can go a long way. When adding in some sticky treats to your sex routine, keep it simple and follow the "less is more" rule. You don't have cover each other in whipped cream and chocolate sauce; instead, just a small amount of honey on the nipples or drizzled along the abdomen can be incredibly exciting.


Amp up the anticipation

You don't have to be close to one another to start building up the sexual tension between the two of you. Sexting can be a great way to heat things up all day long. You don't have to send anything too risqué, just enough to get their mind going and let them know you can't wait to see them again that evening.


A little bondage

Handcuffs or a silk rope to keep the hands restrained can really heighten the sexual satisfaction in the bedroom. Simply tying your partner's hands up can increase the pleasure the both of you get out of your experience.


Role playing

Have some fun getting into different roles. Professor and student, nurse and patient, pool boy and housewife? There are endless possibilities for the two of you to get a little creative and act out on some of your long time fantasies.



If you've done the role playing and need some other new things to try in the bedroom, add in some costumes! You can expand on your fantasies in new ways when you dress the part as well and there is something that seems to be irresistible about a sexy French maid costume



You'll need to properly plan for this one as it is typically against the law to get it on in public, but having it done quickly in a more public place can heighten your sexual desire. If you're not as daring to get it on in the public park, you can at least be a little more daring in your own home. Keep the blind open as you go at it on the living room floor.



While a lot of porn can be raunchy, it can also lead to some new ideas to spice up your own bedroom experiences. With so many options, you can choose to go a little PG with your choice of what to watch as a late night movie that can give you some new positions to try or roles to play.


Learn a new position

If you don't own a Kama Sutra, you'll want to buy one. The book is dedicated to love making in every way. Make it a point to dive into the Kama Sutra and try a new position once a month or even week to really keep your sexual life hot and steamy.



Massages are very sensual and pleasing for both the giver and receiver. There are plenty of lotions and oils that you can use to really set the mood for an intimate evening. Add in some edible hot massage oils for an unforgettable encounter in the bedroom.



Playing some sexy music while you seductively take your clothes off for your partner can be all you need to add the spice back into your sex life. While this is one mainly for the women, with a little bit of practice, men can master a sex striptease to perform for their partner as well.


Switch your dominate and submissive roles

If you're always the submissive one, try out being the dominate one. Switching your roles up in the bedroom can instantly lead to a more exciting time. Stepping out of your typical comfort zone can be the small switch you need to revamp your bedroom games and can lead to more new things to try in the bedroom.


Anal sex

Anal sex gets a bad rep simply because most couples go about it in the wrong way. If it's rushed, it can be painful and unpleasant for everyone, but when done right, it can be mind-blowing. The key is to go slow so the whole process remains pleasurable and exciting.


Don't just have sex

Make love. There's a difference between simply having sex and making love. Making love is more sensual where you really focus on pleasing the other person through caressing and kissing. If you are feeling like you bedroom routine is getting a little boring, then you might want to consider slowing it down and really pleasing each other through lovemaking.


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