Maybe you are at the point in your life where you are getting more and more wedding invitation. All your friends are settling down and tying the knot while you are still trying to figure out where your life is going. While many view marriage as a happy big even in their lives, the truth is more and more young adults are putting marriage on hold until they accomplished some of the other major events first. If you are feeling a little left behind in the marriage game, you're not the only one and don't feel ashamed. There are many reasons not to get married that a number of young adults are more aware of than ever before.


Avoid Divorce.

So many marriages end in divorce; this is not unknown knowledge. The chances of divorce, however, seems to decrease among those who wait until after they graduate from college or among those who have a stable career before they tie the knot. Wanting to avoid having to go through a messy divorce is enough of a reason to wait on the whole marriage thing.


The history of marriage.

If you took a look at what marriage was actually intended, you will know it had nothing to do with finding your other half, or love, or any of the other fairytale romance tied to it today. History has shown that marriage was a legal way to enslave women. If you're a woman, this is enough of a reason to not get married. If you are in a healthy committed relationship, you don't need a piece of paper to prove how much you care for one another.


Maintain your independence.

It is not uncommon for many men and women to fear getting married because it means they won't be able to pursue their dreams and passions anymore. This is often more true among women who tend to take on more of the domestic responsibilities at home than men. Most people view their single life as being able to have more control over their finances, career goals, and social life.


You're not alone.

In the past, people jumped the gun to get married because they thought they would be alone for the rest of their lives if they didn't. This couldn't be further from the truth. Actually, most married couples have admitted that they feel more alone since they got married because they don't get to spend as much time with their friends as they used to. So reasons not to get married include the impact it will have among your friends. Not being married does not indicate that you are alone, you actually have more people around you that care about you. 


You can get married anytime.

You can get married next year or the year after. If you ever feel the need to take that big symbolic leap and walk down the aisles, you can. You can always keep an open mind to marriage but not do it right now if you have no intention of doing it. If you are in a committed relationship, there is no rush to make it legal; you can do that at any point in the future if you just want to.


It's expensive.

The average wedding cost almost 30,000 dollars! Just for one day of celebrating! Getting married is a huge expense that most people feel is better to save that money for something more worthwhile. Considering how most married couples state that the most significant issues they have is finances, it is no wonder that one of the reasons not to get married would have to do with the actual cost of getting married.


​You'll have to be more cautious.

When you get married, you can't just think about how your decision will affect your life, you have to consider how they will affect your spouse as well. Marriage puts an end to most of the risky choices you would make because you have to keep in mind that you aren't just supporting yourself anymore. This can hinder your chance of seizing a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that could really pay off in the long run.


Your sex life will suffer.

For men, this is often the biggest reason to hold off on marriage, once you're married, it tends to be put on hold more often than not. Married life and sex often only happen on special occasions but is anything but special. Sex will get boring and will be far and few between.


Being domestic isn't much fun.

For women, getting married tends to have more negative impacts. While there is a constant fight over what “rules” each partner should play, the truth is when a woman gets married, she is automatically expected to take care of the house, her husband and kids. If you're a working woman, you are looked at as more of a risk in your job because it is automatically assumed that you will be requesting time off to start a family. Men, on the other hand, are looked at as being more responsible and are even more likely to get promotions.


It doesn't make you an adult.

Most people look at marriage as the huge responsibility that makes a statement about how grown up you are. The truth is getting married doesn't make you an adult and if you think it will, you have a lot to learn. Marriage is about compromise, being selfless, and putting another person's needs before your own. One of the reasons not to get married is you simply might not be ready for it. If you want to focus on your career, you're less likely to do that when you're married. Want to travel? Not going to happen much if you're married because of trying to save up for a house or pay bills. Being married doesn't make you an adult, but you should be grown enough to understand the commitment it takes to make it work.


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