You've been so used to just the two of you hanging out every weekend. Sipping wine, lounging around in whatever is comfortable when you're over her house... but now she has a boyfriend. It's no longer going to be the two of your loving and hating the single status together. You might even feel a little left out now that she has someone else to share her time with. Plenty of things are bound to change, you may ask "what should I expect and do when my best friend has a boyfriend", read on to find out.

What Changes When Your Best Friend Has a Boyfriend?

1

You spend more time with yourself.

You will suddenly have more time to yourself. While at times this can be lonely, it gives you the perfect opportunity to start a new hobby or do something else just for you.

2

You get a little jealous.

You love that she is so happy in her new relationship, but there are times when you aren't so happy seeing her so happy. Watching her being all lovey dovey is bound to make you a little nauseous every once in a while.

3

She'll want you to find someone too.

She wants to hang out with you more but since she is always with him, she'll be on a mission to find you a boyfriend as well. She'll try hooking you up with his friends, cousins or just about anyone so that you guys can double date.

4

You'll get tired of hearing about him.

Most of your conversations are going to revolve around what they did together. You'll have to get used to her talking about him non-stop, for at least the first month or two.

5

You won't get their humor.

Sure you and your best friend will have your own inside jokes that you find hilarious, but she'll also have inside jokes with him now too. And since you won't get them, you won't find them funny.

6

You'll pretend to be excited about their relationship.

My best friend has a boyfriend, YAY! However, you'll have to start practicing getting overly excited about all the details of their dates and times together.

7

Her texts will be shorter.

You'll know when they are out together because her texts will be short and simple. This will happen more times than you anticipate.

8

Going to the movies won't be as fun.

Most likely she will have already seen that movie you've been dying to see with her boyfriend. Sure, she'll go with you to see it again but she'll most likely give away all the good parts before they happen.

9

Listening to music gets awkward.

If it's a love song, you won't expect to get a cuddly and cute hug with each other. 

10

You'll be the third wheel.

Every time you want to hang out with, he will most likely be there too. You'll feel awkward and more like you are intruding in on their time together. 

11

You try to make new friends.

You start looking for other people to hang out with since her time is always consumed with her boyfriend.

12

You'll feel like you are bothering them.

There will be times when you get the impression that they don't want you around.

13

You'll be sad.

You feel like you've lost your best friend at times. This can lead to a lot of time crying alone.

14

You'll feel lonely.

You won't want to let her know that you are feeling more and more left out because you want to be supportive of the relationship.

15

Listening to break up songs won't be the same.

You two use to belt out all those angry breakup songs together. But now, you will always say "my best friend has a boyfriend and she won't be as into these heartbreak songs as she was before".

16

You watch more TV.

You try to make new friends, start a new hobby but nothing keeps your mind distracted for long. You may end up watching more television shows to keep your mind preoccupied.

17

You try to break them up.

You might be thinking of ways to get them to break up and even if you don't actually act on any of these plans, you will secretly be wishing they would.

18

The thought that you might be a little crazy crosses your mind.

Your best friend is always to see other peoplenow. However, it is crazy of you to think that she would never find a great guy to date.

19

You support the relationship.

As time passes by, you will begin to accept the relationship she has simply because you really do want her to be happy.

20

You will actually like him.

Over time you might actually grow to like her boyfriend because maybe you two share some same interest. This can cause you to worry when they have a fight or she talks about breaking up with him because secretly you don't want her to.

What Can You Do When That Happens?

Your best friends will get another one some day, so when this happens, how can you go through this period more easily? Besides knowing what will change in advance, you may want to adjust your attitude towards the thing.
  1. Be supportive even if you at first are not initially excited about the relationship.

  2. It is normal for them to want to spend time together, but if they are constantly leaving you out of the conversation, leaving you out of plans or straight up ditching you, this is never a good sign.
  3. My best friend has a boyfriend and would rather hang out with her boyfriend all the time? You might be reconsidering just how good of a friend she is.
  4. Don't get mad at them for wanting to spend time with their boyfriend. 

    Depending on how old you guys are, there is a pretty good chance it won't last.
  5. Hang out with other people and even consider dating someone yourself.
  6. Expand your interest. If you still feel like a third wheel even after meeting some new people, considering learning more about what interests them.

  7. Have fun being single. You won't be single forever and even if your best friend has all of her time taken up, that doesn't mean you can't enjoy still being single.

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